Dating an older man can sound very enticing to a lot of women.
Typically, women mature at a faster rate than men do and sometimes a 50 year old man is more compatible with a 25 year old woman than a lot of the 20-somethings she has been dating.
There are some things to consider though. Read on to find out the top 4 things to keep in mind when dating an older guy.
1. They Often Have Ex Wives
If he is a good bit older than you are then he has probably done things, been places and experienced life’s milestones that you have not yet been through.
One of these experiences is marriage. He has probably been married before and, therefore, has the often dreaded ex-wife. Even the nicest ex-wife can be a pain for you.
He may still be paying alimony or have other money or emotions tied up with her and they likely have kids… which brings us to # 2.
2. They Usually Have Kids
He probably has a kid or kids. They may live nearby or far away. He may be raising them or they may be grown up but don’t underestimate the importance and priority that his kids will (and should) have in his life.
You have to be prepared to be scrutinized, and possibly tested, by them.
If your guy is a good dad (and you would hope that he would be) then he will want you to like his kids and for them to like you. His relationship with his children is something so important that you must show interest in them.
3. They Can Be Stuck in their Ways
The older that people get the more they are stuck in their ways. They may not mean to be rigid and may not even realize that they are inflexible but they will probably have been doing a lot of things a specific way for a long time.
They will have strong opinions and won’t be easily swayed. It may be sexy to have a guy who is confident and strong in his convictions, opinions and ideas. It can also be extremely annoying and frustrating so beware.
4. They May Have a “Daddy Complex”
This is not as creepy as it sounds. If he is a good bit older than you then he may feel a bit protective of you and he may come off as a bit bossy.
It is a weird dynamic in a romantic relationship and you two will have to work through it because it is not something that will foster a healthy and happy relationship. On the other hand, he may have wisdom and ideas to share which is nothing to scoff at either.
It is becoming more acceptable all of the time to date outside of your “age bracket” but it still presents very unique challenges.
Older men are wiser, smarter and more confident (usually, that is!) but they can also be stuck in their ways and they often have other obligations and relationships that you may not have yet.
You need to be prepared for the fact that dating an older man often means dating an ex-wife and a couple of kids too. However, if you have realistic expectations and a little bit of patience there is no reason not to go for it!